I am in the same boat. I had the XS and that gave me a headache. Went onto the XR but there was something odd about the screen which I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Switch the 11 pro. It was better but still had the odd headache. Switched the SE 2020. Good screen but nowhere near as the comfortable as the 2016 SE which is my spare phone.
Contemplating switching the 2016 SE.
Was planning to get an iPhone 8 as I found a good deal. But before I pulled the trigger I decided to do a reset all settings on the SE2. It has somehow made a difference. Will see how it goes.