Just a long term update, I can use the Quadro RTX 4000 8GB without eyestrain, it seems like some Turing based cards can be good or bad, but the RTX A4000 16GB (RTX 3070 equivalent) is still absolutely unusable in Windows 10 2004, Windows 7, and Linux. Im pretty much convinced at this point that the GPU's themselves are the problem, even after upgrading to a Evga Z490 Dark, and I9-10900K the RTX A4000 is still unusable. I have tested this with multiple monitors over the duration.
Dell UP2720Q, Dell UP3218K, Dell UP3221Q, Dell UP3017, Dell U2720Q, Dell UP2716D, Dell U3223QE, Dell U2723QE, Dell UP2716D, Dell U3219Q. None of these monitors made a difference when being used with a problematic card, there was always strain present when compared to a known good safe reference card like the Quadro K4200.
List of graphics cards i tested also:
RTX 4000(good), RTX A4000(bad), 5700 XT(bad), RX 480(bad), GTX 680 Classified(good), Quadro K4200(good), Quadro 4000(good), Firepro V5900(good)
For my other systems i am just resorting to buying the most powerful Kepler based GPU's. Although im planning to test the Radeon Pro W5500 and W5700 soon as a final test. I also plan to test some cards on Windows Server 2016 and 2019 just to see if maybe something is different. Hopefully someday a way to edit the GPU Bios to disable this hardware level dithering becomes available in the future.