The verdict: I am going with the M2 Touch Bar Pro. Would also recommend M1 Air — as it should have basically the same basic LCD screen tech as the M2 TB Pro without the different backlight arrangement, extra color calibration, and whatever possible effects the "billion color" marketing entails that would come with the M2 Air.
Despite some of the downsides such as really uneven panel calibration on my unit, the Touch Bar (which needs to be blacked out to eliminate PWM), blurrier image at first glance (but maybe this is because my eyes can actually relax? because the image actually starts to become clearer the longer I use it) — the M2 TB Pro gives me noticeably less eye strain than both the refurb M2 Air and base model M2 Air. The intense PWM-like flicker that even affected the really well calibrated panel of the refurb M2 Air is not present at all on the M2 TB Pro.
The more I use either M2 Air, the more I get this pressure in my left eye — very similar to using OLED screens with PWM. This is probably coming from the screen flicker I can catch on camera.
The pressure isn't present at all on the M2 TB Pro, using it feels just like using a "decent-to-good Intel Mac". The M2 TB Pro is a machine I would say you could upgrade from an Intel Mac to, and as long as dithering is disabled with Stillcolor, you wouldn't notice a difference.
Stillcolor is also 100% working on the M2 TB Pro. Even though it also worked really well on the M2 Airs, making a lot of elements still (especially true on the one with the better panel of the two), I could still notice things like "a totally static non-blinking text cursor feel like it was moving a tiny bit", possibly due to the PWM-like screen flicker. However, non-blinking text cursors are entirely still on the M2 TB Pro.
So here's what it comes down to:
Want a fully usable Apple Silicon laptop?
#1: Get an M1 Air, M2 Touch Bar Pro, or M1 Touch Bar Pro, install Stillcolor, disable the Touch Bar (if applicable) and keep above 75% brightness for zero PWM. These are likely to be the most comfortable Apple Silicon laptop that ever will be made — and possibly may be more comfortable to you than even many newer Intel Macs. Stillcolor works perfectly on the M2 Touch Bar Pro and is very likely to also work perfectly on the M1 Air and M1 Touch Bar Pro.
To me, the M2 Touch Bar Pro with Stillcolor is much more comfortable than the 2015 15" Retina MacBook Pro with AMD dGPU, 2018 Retina MacBook Air, and the 2020 Intel MacBook Pro.
#2: You can try an M2 Air or M3 Air but your mileage may vary. There are many good things and are still hundreds of times better than mini-LED, but PWM-like screen flickering or the different style of backlight used behind the display may be deal-breakers. If something feels off about it, just try a laptop from #1 instead.
#3: Do NOT buy any MacBook Pro with an XDR mini-LED display. These screens are currently unfixable even with Stillcolor because of the complexity of local dimming and unknown extra TCON-level FRC, and are some of the least comfortable displays I've ever used in my life — IMO, they're even worse than OLED.