wlmsn Probably nobody of us expected this to happen 🙂 I'm with this issue for ~9y. Over the years I realized that glare and high contrast are my main problems, refresh/flicker irrelevant. TN being the oldest technology has the worst contrast, washed out colors, lowest brightness etc. I've tried lot of different monitors in the recent years and for me nothing compares to TN, tho even between TN models some feel better than others (I think mostly due the brightness or type of LEDs they use).
Weird example for me is I've been using iPhones exclusevily for the last decade, I can't tolerate them however once I apply Skinomi mate skin on them, I have no problems. It feels like it replaces their display with a TN one 😃 No more glare and it reduces the contrast, has grainy texture, colors became washed out, it almost blends with the environment like a paper, feels like e-ink display