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I have edited the original post with a hugely significant update to my setup. This is a 100% working setup for me, I have been testing it for months. I can now play games (and do so much more on my laptop) for the first time in 8 years.
Hope it helps somebody.
si_edgey Huge update here.
Since moving to Windows 10 v2004 (May 2020 update) there has been a massive improvement in my symptoms. Now, as long as I use old Intel drivers and ditherig.exe (still not sure if this does anything but can't change it now!) then I can use my machine without disabling the graphics drivers.
This has changed my life as I can now play games, do video editing, use the HDMI output, and have the power saving features of the laptop (battery lasts about 400% longer!). It's the first time in 8 years I've been able to do these things, ever since getting my first Macbook in January 2012 and discovering my temporal dithering sensitivity and my ability to have non-stop migraines..
To confirm, my 100% working setup (been testing for months now):
Laptop: Dell XPS 9560, with 1080p FHD matte screen
Windows Version: Windows 10 version 2004 (this is very important)Intel HD 630 driver version: 21.20.16.4475 (from 2016, more recent drivers cause symptoms)
Nvidia driver version: 26.21.14.4614 (latest)Additional Software: Ditherig v1.11 with all dithering disabled, Windows Update Blocker: https://www.sordum.org/9470/windows-update-blocker-v1-5/
After finding this solution, I tried buying some modern laptops but it would seem that all Intel UHD drivers (anything from 8th generation processors onwards) cause me symptoms. So right now the most recent processor I can use is Intel 7th generation with the 2016 drivers.