i agree that this specific supplier/manufacturer of the VA panel in the monitor you tried really sucks. sounds like a terrible experience.
but, technically not all VA is the same. i have a really old VA TV from 2004 (Sharp LC-G5C26U) that i actually prefer to all IPS screens that i've ever tried. it's one of my main screens i use today because of how comfortable it is.
so i don't necessarily think the concept of VA itself is the source of the problem here, but rather a lot of other things wrong with this monitor, or something wrong with the panel's specific implementation of VA because it sounds VERY different compared to how the VA panel in my old Sharp TV feels.
(but yeah there's definitely many differences between a 2004 VA TV and a new VA monitor lol)